Jerks!

It's really difficult not to say anything bad about anyone. But when you are reactive and caught up in the moment it is not easy to just brush it off your shoulder. Even with people you know or close with, talking about them even neutrally can be misinterpreted by the second person and even more so with the third person.

So,
1. Don't talk about anyone, unless asked appropriately.
2. Narrating events or small chit chats can be dangerous, because it can always be misinterpreted
3. Therefore, talk about the weather, an animal, an object or a situation but do not mention any name or describe anyone in the same social group as the topic.
4. Stop being reactive always, sometimes being apathetic and nonchalant is really useful.
5. Be honest about your feelings and thoughts, however sharing them is not a duty or obligation. Meaning feelings or thought about other people regardless of intention is a big forbidden zone.
6. When they don't like you, they will have the meanest thing to say. So learn to chose which words to listen to. If the person's meaning and goal is to hurt then it is best that he/she be forgotten.
7. Don't volunteer information, let them ask.
8. If you don't want to answer, ask another question or ask it back.
9. THERE ARE ALWAYS SOMEONE WATCHING AND LISTENING, and they're not even God.


more to come...